I copy this content from Prof Ilchi Lee’s book for great experience. Please read carefully and understand thanks. “Happiness is a state of mind.” “Choose to be happy.” “Create your own happiness.” We have heard these and similar sayings so many times that they are almost cliches. Let us ask a more basic question: Why do you seek to be happy? Why do you put forth such an effort to be happy?
“Life has a meaning.” “I am a good person.” “My life is a worthy life.” “I am happy.” “I create my own happiness.” Why do we need so many self-motivational maxims? After spending your whole day in the never-ending pursuit of happiness, have you ever gone to bed wishing that life could be over as soon as possible? Real happiness is not generating conditions that can produce happiness, but being free from the pounding pressure to always be happy. Real happiness is going beyond the constant need to be happy.
In order to gain the freedom referred to previously, you need to gain an insight into three basic truths of life. The first insight is that life is suffering. Birth is suffering, as well as eating, drinking, loving, parting, coming together, drifting apart—all these are forms of suffering. Forget about the things we actually admit to be suffering; even the things that we define as joyful create stress for us in that they take us away from a state of equanimity.
If birth is a blessing and life a source of continuous happiness. then we don’t need spiritual maturity or enlightenment, for when you are happy, you look for a continuation of that happiness. But you are not looking for something else, something better. When you look for something else, you feel a lack of something in your current reality. We try to solve a problem only when we perceive a problem, and we try to fill a space only when we see that it’s empty.
When a person is happy, she does not ask for a reason. She is satisfied in just being happy. When you are happy, you dance, sing. and laugh; you don’t think about the deeper meaning of life. A Buddha may laugh, but not a philosopher, for joy and happiness are contrary to the motivation to philosophize. In a happy country. should such a place ever exist, all philosophers would be unemployed.