The need for safety or stability is the most basic of them all. People feel rage and anger when something or someone threatens their safety, whether it be physical safety, economic stability, or social stature. If they are helpless against the threats, they fall into fear and despair.

Ilchi Lee writes people also have a need to be acknowledged or recognized for their worth. If you are recognized, you feel good. If you are not, you don’t. You’d do almost anything to be recognized. In one-way or another, your current situation is the sum of all the things that you have done to satisfy your needs for safety and recognition. You have smiled in order to maintain your sense of safety and stability, you have striven to be diligent to be recognized, and you have tried to be responsible in order to maintain a certain status in life.

Finally, people have a need to dominate or control. When someone agrees and follows your lead, he or she is likable. When someone disagrees with you. he or she is not so likable.